Surrender But Never Give Up
Have you ever had one of those weeks when you catch yourself saying “Are you kidding me”? Does your life present you with challenges that make you scratch your head and say “Really”? You are not alone and in fact you have a lot of company. The past few weeks have me asking the same questions. Between incorporating my law firm and divorce coaching businesses, moving my office and my home and oh yeah normal life stuff, it’s been a wild ride that’s for sure. What I’ve noticed is that the more I react to what life has to show me, the more it shows me what I need to learn. I finally said “Ok, enough” and found some interesting responses.
When I allowed myself whatever reaction I needed to make, I was able to let go of whatever I was feeling much easier. I surrendered to the situation knowing that I had no control over it and wasn’t going to let it define me. I became the observer not the participant and while the actual situation didn’t change, how I felt during it did. By letting go of how you want an outcome to be, you surrender the need to control. That doesn’t mean you are giving up or throwing the towel in with whatever is going on. A good way to put it is you are giving in to allowing the situation to unfold but not giving up the bigger picture of how you want your life to be.
Those considering, going through or have already experienced divorce frequently struggle with surrendering and letting go. When asking yourself whether or not to divorce, you grapple with the concept of surrender. A recurring question is how do I let go of whether the marriage is going to work out without giving up. The reality is that one spouse does not decide whether the marriage will work out or not. All you can do is look at what might be the best outcome for you. By doing so, you let go of the outcome of the marriage knowing that if you’re OK, the marriage will either work or not. Those who have already experienced the divorce process and have trouble moving on are still holding onto something. By understanding what that is, you allow yourself to surrender that what is holding you back to embrace that which will enable you to move ahead and live the life you deserve.
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